Making Memories, Not Mayhem: How to Be a Memorable Mother of the Bride
Your daughter is getting married! This is a momentous occasion, and as the Mother-of-the-Bride, you're a VIP. You're supporting your daughter, greeting guests and generally beaming with pride. Of course, you want to look and feel your best. But how do you achieve that memorable, elegant presence without accidentally overshadowing the star of the show? It's all about balance and making thoughtful choices.
Let's break down how to be a memorable Mother-of-the-Bride, ensuring you shine with confidence and grace, all while keeping the focus where it rightfully belongs: on your daughter.
1. The Golden Rule: Consult the Bride!
Before you even think about fabrics, colours or hemlines, talk to your daughter. Ask her about:
* The Wedding Theme and Colour Palette: What's the overall vibe of the wedding? Modern and minimalist? Romantic and rustic? Knowing this will help you choose an outfit that complements the wedding, not clashes with it.
* Her Vision for the Bridal Party and Mother-of-the-Bride: Does she have specific colour preferences or anything she'd like you to avoid? She might have an opinion on the length, silhouette or even the type of fabric she envisions for you.
* Bridesmaid Colours: Knowing what the bridesmaids are wearing will help you avoid accidentally matching (or worse, clashing!).
2. Choosing the Perfect Outfit: Elegance and Appropriateness
* Think Timeless, Not Trendy: This isn't the time to experiment with the latest fleeting fashion trends. Opt for classic silhouettes and elegant designs that will look beautiful in photos for years to come. A-line dresses, sheath dresses with jackets and elegant trouser suits are all excellent choices.
* Fabric Finesse: Choose fabrics that drape well and are comfortable to wear for a long day. Silk, chiffon, crepe and lace are all lovely options. Avoid anything too stiff or scratchy.
* Colour Considerations: Once you have the bride's input, choose a colour that complements the wedding colour scheme and flatters your skin tone. Jewel tones, soft pastels and sophisticated neutrals are usually safe bets. However, steer clear of white, ivory or anything too similar to the bride's dress. Black is acceptable for evening weddings but check with the bride first as it's not always the best fit for a celebratory occasion.
* Fit is Key: A perfectly tailored outfit will make all the difference. Don't settle for something off the rack that doesn't quite fit right. Invest in professional alterations to ensure a flattering and comfortable fit.
* Consider the Venue and Time of Day: A daytime garden wedding calls for a different look than a formal evening ballroom reception. And a wedding held abroad is a whole different affair!
3. The Hat-titude Adjustment: Adding a Touch of Flair
A hat or fascinator can add a touch of elegance and personality to your outfit, but it's essential to choose one that complements your outfit and doesn't overpower the bride.
* Proportion is Paramount: Choose a hat that's proportionate to your height and build. A petite woman will be overwhelmed by a large, wide-brimmed hat. Similarly, a tall woman can easily carry off a larger style.
* Complement, Don't Compete: The hat should complement your outfit, not clash with it. Consider the colour and style of your dress when choosing a hat. A simple, elegant dress can be paired with a more elaborate hat, while a dress with a lot of detail calls for a simpler style.
* Consider the Hairstyle: Think about how you'll be wearing your hair on the day and choose a hat that works well with your hairstyle. If you're wearing your hair up, a fascinator or a smaller hat that sits on the side of your head might be a good choice. If you're wearing your hair down, a wider-brimmed hat could be a better option.
* Comfort is Crucial: You'll be wearing your hat for several hours, so make sure it's comfortable to wear. Choose a hat that fits properly and doesn't feel too heavy or itchy.
* Mind the Updo: If you are choosing an updo for your hair - decide on the updo before you choose your hat. Certain styles don't work well with certain hats. Work with a hairstylist and milliner to find the perfect match.
* Don't Be Afraid to Skip It: While hats can be a wonderful addition, they're not mandatory. If you don't feel comfortable wearing a hat, or if you can't find one that you love, don't force it. There are plenty of other ways to accessorise your outfit.
4. Accessorising with Grace:
* Jewellery: Keep jewellery simple and elegant. A delicate necklace, a pair of understated earrings or a classic bracelet are all great choices. Avoid anything too flashy or distracting.
* Shoes: Choose comfortable shoes that you can wear for several hours. Heels are perfectly acceptable, but make sure they're not too high that you'll be uncomfortable.
* Clutch: A small, elegant clutch is the perfect way to carry your essentials.
5. Confidence is Your Best Accessory
Ultimately, the most important thing you can wear is confidence. When you feel good about yourself, you'll radiate joy and make the day even more special. Remember, your role is to support your daughter and celebrate her happiness. By making thoughtful choices and prioritising elegance and appropriateness, you'll be a memorable Mother-of-the-Bride for all the right reasons. So, relax, enjoy the day and let your love shine through!
Bonus Tip:
Don't forget to bring a small emergency kit with essentials like pain relievers, tissues and a small sewing kit. You never know when you might need them!
Visit The Extraordinary Hat Company for expert advice from our milliner, Pat Brown. Let Pat help you find the perfect hat for your perfect day.